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how to win a girl over: be lloyd dobler.

This post is brought to you by Shanti who completely tempted me to put Say Anything in my DVD player, get into bed, and write about relationship-y things.

I was going to write about my relationship deal breakers too, like Shanti did. But then I started watching and decided I would write about my deal makers instead. Deal maker? Be Lloyd Dobler.

If you know me, you know I am not a movie watcher at all. But Say Anything? I’ve probably watched it a million times and will watch it a bazillion more times (though my copy was a mess and skipping all over the place tonight). And through much discussion and thought lately about what exactly my friends and I are looking for in men, I’ve decided, I’m looking for Lloyd Dobler. Yes, I know Lloyd Dobler isn’t real (though John Cusack would do as well), but Lloyd is pretty much the ideal man.

Lloyd is tall and handsome. But most importantly, he has tons of self confidence, though not in an asshole kind of way. He has no problem calling Diane up, but is still nervous in a totally cute kind of way. In short, he is absolutely adorable, but in a manly sort of way.

Guys don’t understand why girls don’t always go for “nice guys.” A lot of times it’s because we like nice, but we don’t like super easy, we don’t like needy, and we don’t want a guy who just wants to be in a relationship. We want to feel like said guy could have any girl he chose, but he is choosing to be with us. Lloyd could have his choice of girls, but he’s madly in love with Diane.

And now, quotes from Say Anything that prove Lloyd is awesome:

-“How hard is it just to decide to be in a good mood and then be in a good mood?”

This is pretty much my philosophy in life. I hate people in constant bad moods and believe it’s not really hard to just be in a good mood. So yes, any guy I’m with must be an optimistic, positive, Lloyd Dobler happy type.

-“Did you really come here with Lloyd Dobler? How did that happen?”
“He made me laugh.”

I knowww, every girl says a sense of humor is the most important quality in a guy. Well, it’s true. And we’re not really talking funny in a joke cracking way. We’re talking, he can be silly, let loose and not worry about what other people think. But he must also be mature. It sounds complicated, but it’s really not. Easy-going and not uptight.

-“She gave me a pen. I gave her my heart and she gave me a pen.”

Just because it’s the best line in any movie ever.

And one final but important word of advice from Lloyd’s friend Corey: “The world is full of guys. Be a man. Don’t be a guy.”

If you haven’t seen it, the trailer sums it up amazingly. But go watch it anyway:

**Of course, as Chuck Klosterman says in Sex, Drugs, and Cocoa Puffs, John Cusack is to blame for the fact that none of us will ever be satisfied in relationships. “Stories like Say Anything are fucking everybody up…we need to worry about all the entertaining messages people are consciously accepting when they’re twenty-six. They’re the ones that get us, because they’re the ones we try to turn into life…I wish I was Lloyd Dobler. I don’t want anybody to step on a piece of broken glass. I want fake love. But that’s all I want. And that’s why I can’t have it.”


9 Responses to “how to win a girl over: be lloyd dobler.”

  1. Jonk Says:

    1) Don’t judge a book by its cover (i.e. I’m glad you opened up to Sia)

    2) Chuck Klosterman’s Sex, Drugs, and Cocoa Puffs is one of my favorite books. Chuck is awesome.

  2. krystle lynne. Says:

    I am so utterly obsessed with this movie, John Cusack, and the soundtrack that its insane.

    Its true, every girl want’s their Lloyd Dobbler. Sigh.

  3. So@24 Says:

    Not gonna lie to you. One year when I asked a friend of mine to a fraternity dance, I dressed up in a trenchcoat, high tops and carried with me a giant boom box blaring “In Your Eyes”.

    I’m not kidding.

  4. k a t i e Says:

    I am downloading immediately.

    Ryan Reynolds from Van Wilder is still my # 1, followed closely by Ryan Reynolds in Definately Maybe, with Ryan Reynolds in Just Friends a close third.

    I’m seeing some sort of pattern developing…

  5. susan Says:

    Say Anything is my ultimate favorite movie of all time.

  6. Andy Says:

    Wise words to live by. All along, I’ve been a guy. A nice guy at that.

  7. Kris Says:

    Funny. In the past, I’ve wrriten a blog post about Lloyd, and another one about Chuck Klosterman talking about him.


    I want a Lloyd.

  8. emily Says:

    i’m embarassed to say i have never seen this movie. i know, i’m lame.

  9. shanti Says:

    sues, i just made jessi’s junior mint cookies and might go crawl into my corner on the couch with a couple of them and watch it. then i will mope around for the rest of the night thinking about my future lloyd dobler while shoving said cookies in my mouth and blame it on you.

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