I for one have never been a fan of relationship statuses on social networking sites. Sure, I guess they're OK for those couples in long-term, committed relationships, but what about those of us still trying to figure life out? First of all, how do you know at what moment you become specifically "in a relationship?" And even once that is figured out, how long do you wait to change your status online? What if you change your status to "in a relationship" and the other part of your relationship fails to do so? Do you freak out and make them change it? And how about break ups? I suppose you'd want to change that status back to "single" immediately, but is it rude and heartless to change it ASAP if you were the one to end the relationship? As if I need more stress in my life, right?
Not to mention, is it really anyone's business whether or not someone is in a relationship? To me, it's really more of a way to bragging rights. A sort of "You don't have to bother flirting with me, because look, I'm happily in a relationship!" Or "Sure I was a huge loser in high school and you never thought I'd get a boyfriend...but you were wrong!" Right, it's all well and good for now; until you break up and the whole world has to know about your relationship failure. The worst is when I go to my Facebook home page and see "so and so and so and so are no longer in a relationship" next to an image of a broken heart. Tear. Break ups are hard enough; now you want to announce it to the entire world (or at least Facebook community)?
I enjoy Facebook because it gives you the option to leave your relationship status blank. Myspace, on the other hand, seems to think life is so cut and dry. Are you single or in a relationship? You must be one or the other. What about those people who don't know what the hell they are? Of course, you can always pick the mysterious "swinger" option, but this just brings up all sorts of negative connotations and makes me wonder.
I miss the days of if you were single and looking, you could go online and make a dating profile stating so. If you were in a relationship, you didn't do this. I miss seeing old friends and asking them questions about what they're up to. Now I see past acquaintances and don't even need to talk to them because I know everything about their boyfriend, job, and typical Friday night in the city. Everybody is so public with their lives these days and people don't seem to feel the need to keep anything private. I know I'm guilty of this too, posting pictures and information about myself...but unless you're my real-life friend you're not going to know who whether or not I'm single, who I'm dating, or each heart break I go through. I have a close group of friends I go to to express my happiness and excitement and to cry with when I'm going through a rough time. And that's more than enough for me.









