Everyone Loves a Boston Girl

Many of my friends and I (ahem, me and Chelsee) seem to be going through weird points in our dating/relationship lives. Chelsee and I spend great deals of time contemplating our issues and (over)analyzing what the hell is going on with us. We’ve come to many (no) conclusions. First of all, different types of guys are attracted to us for completely inexplicable reasons. For some reason, completely immature guys who just want to have a good time go for Chelsee. Not to say they’re not nice guys, but they’re usually guys not looking for relationships. And for some other reasons, guys who want to get married and make me their wife are attracted to me. Which is completely odd, because nothing about Chelsee or her appearance screams “Hi, I’m slutty and just like to have a good time, so by all means use me and then leave.” And I’m pretty sure there’s nothing about me saying “I’d love to be your wife and stay home with the kids while you’re off making the bucks.” So what gives? We have no idea.

It leaves us both in awkward positions. Essentially, she doesn’t quite know how to have a relationship, while I don’t really know how not to. She has become an incredibly skilled dater, while I am the worst dater in the world. It also leaves us confused with her saying things like, “I mean, I’m not necessarily looking for a relationship, but I mean, ummm.” And me saying things like, “I just want (need) to date, I mean uhhh, obviously if I find someone, but not now, uhhh I just don’t know.” And I basically feel like a horrible person for complaining that guys see me as a relationship material, because isn’t that a good thing? I mean, I know it’s good that I’m seen as wifey material; I’m sure some day I will make a fabulously amazing wife, but I think I’d rather meet a guy not eagerly searching for a wife, and instead someone who realizes he wants to get married after meeting me.

I guess what I’m trying to say is, it’s tough out there. It’s hard to figure out what you want, and more importantly what you need. And even in the rare case that you have that all figured out, there’s no saying you’re going to get it.

These times also make me truly realize the importance of friends. With Chelsee and I (over)analyzing each and every aspect of our lives together, no matter how different our issues are, we help each other understand so much. But in the end, we mostly help each other to understand that we are smart, amazing women and we have to trust ourselves. And no matter how awkward and weird we get, I think we really do. Right? Chels? Yeah, friends make pretty much everything easier.